Fexting: This is how text disputes influence German relationships!

Fexting: This is how text disputes influence German relationships!

A current population-representative study carried out by the market research institute Innofact for the dating app Parship shows a worrying trend: a considerable majority of 63 percent of the over 3,000 Germans surveyed said that they had already argued with their partner via text message. This survey, which took place in May, highlights how communication styles in relationships have changed. Fexting, a mixture of “fighting” and “texting”, has established itself as a new phenomenon that is particularly widespread among the 18 to 39 year old age group. Here, 84 percent report experiences with this argumentative behavior.

As the survey further shows, many believe that conflicts arise more quickly in text messages than in face-to-face conversations. 63 percent of those surveyed share this opinion. However, this quick, often misleading exchange can put a lot of strain on the relationship. 56 percent of those surveyed find it annoying when their partner reads a message but doesn't respond immediately. Such ambiguity can lead to a vicious circle where emojis can both trigger misunderstandings and mitigate them. For example, 47 percent believe emojis cause confusion, while 51 percent believe they can help avoid conflict.

The fexting phenomenon

Fexting is often perceived as an outlet for insecurities and fears in relationships. An author who has experienced fexting herself reports that in her last long-term relationship, arguments - both about everyday things and deeper topics - were often resolved via text message. It's not an isolated case: friends report similar patterns in their relationships. Psychologists Hayley Quinn and Vicki Pavitt explain that the need for immediate clarification and fear of confrontation encourage this behavior. Therefore, fexting is often perceived as less threatening because direct confrontations are avoided.

But what should you pay attention to? Experts advise critically questioning this form of communication. The five-day rule could be a helpful strategy for clarifying whether an argument is actually relevant enough to discuss in person later. This can prevent misunderstandings in written communication from leading to escalating conflicts.

Resolving conflict in relationships

Psychological research has examined various approaches to conflict resolution in relationships. A central point is the importance of communication. Recommended strategies include Marshall Rosenberg's Nonviolent Communication (NVC), which promotes empathetic understanding and uses four steps: report neutrally, express emotions, identify needs and make a clear request. Cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT) also helps to recognize dysfunctional thought patterns and improve the relationship situation.

In order to successfully manage conflicts, it is important to communicate empathetically and point out problems at an early stage. Active listening and non-verbal communication are essential elements that help clear up misunderstandings and find a solution. Given the fact that fexting is finding its way into many relationships, it makes sense to consciously integrate these strategies into everyday life and thus promote emotional intelligence.

At a time when digital communication dominates our lives, it is even more important to be aware of the challenges and dangers associated with fexting and similar behavior. By learning to manage their conflicts constructively, couples can not only strengthen their relationship but also promote their individual well-being.

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